Monday, April 18, 2011

Getting to know you MEME

Bod for Tea tagged me in this.  Her answers were very illuminating!  I doubt mine will be so interesting.  AC is going to help I think.  I'll do his in a different colour if he does.

Here goes...

If you could go back in time to relive one moment, what would it be?

AC wants to go back to when he was born.  Then he wouldn't have to go to school.
I'd go back to those times as well.  Specifically, the first time he crawled.  He was 15 months old.  He'd been walking since he was 9 months, but he couldn't crawl.  Then one day at toddler group, he went to go through the tunnel on the floor.  He always struggled with those once he was over a year, becuse he was too tall to just walk through by then.  He dropped to the floor, usually to stand up, turn around and walk off.  But he seemed to think about it, and then just crawled.  It was a very cool moment.

If you could go back in time and change one thing, what would it be?

AC says every time I crash my helicopter (he means me!) he would be able to fix it.
I would change the She-Ex taking the BG away.  I'd give Rich another few years with his daughter.  Even if the end result was the same, I'd do that.

What movie or TV character do you think you resemble most in personality?

AC says "I am most like Keith Lemmon." (WHAT? KEITH LEMMON?)  He says I am the skinny one from Supersize v Superskinny.

I say that I would like to think I am Roberta from the Railway Children.  Jenny Agutter played her in the film.  I'm probably more like Princess Fiona from Shrek. 

Which TV or movie character would you like to be?

AC wants to be David Hasslehoff.
I'd like to be more like Joanna Lumley.  Such elegance and poise and never a mark on her clothes that she looks at and goes "Hmmmm.  What was that?"

If you could push one person in the whole world off a cliff and get away with it, who would it be?

AC says "Mrs Jay, from America's Next Top Model.  He's a man who pretends to be a woman and he's just horrible." N.B. He's horrible generally, not purely because of his choice of attire.
I'd push the Ex's off a cliff.  Onto a floating island that caught them safely, but took them far, far away!

Name one habit you want to change in yourself.

AC says "My mums intestines.  They make her fart.  And anything that makes her fart is not good. I'd change to being able to have a VW camper."

I'd change slothfulness and disorganisation in the evenings.  I need to get more done!

Describe yourself in one word.

AC "Funny"
Me "Optomistic"
Describe the person who named you in this MEME in one word.


Why do you blog? Answer in one sentence.

Because it gets things off my chest in a forum that means I don't have to confront anyone in real life, because it's almost all petty and not worth a proper row.

Name at least 3 people or more to send this MEME, and then inform them.

Hmmmm.  I don't know!

Ex's for a reason.....




Three holes in a row........

Yesterday J and I had our usual T-boy is here and you're stressed because you've just seen his mother argument.  It's never about anything much.  It's just that she's upset him through the fact she exists and is a constant reminder of her unfaithfulness and the way she took his son away to live hundreds of miles away. (Hmmm.  Seeing a pattern here folks?)  Anyway.  Yesterday she surpassed herself.

T-Boy is about a year behind in most of his academic subjects.  That's fine, it's nothing that can't be dealt with with enough work from him and all of us.  J asked his mother to bring his reading book and any homework.  Most of the single mums I know are forever moaning that the father isn't interested in education and so on, so we both thought she'd be fine with this.  Nope.  Just a long round of expletives, in the car park, like a harridan.  Because he asked for the book to read with his son.  In the end I actually spoke up and said "He is a year behind, he needs to read every day."  and told J we would get books from school.

Apparently only she and J are to talk about their son's education, so the ensuing text barrage began.

Here's the thing.

I spent 5 years with Lori as the She-Ex.  She progressively tried to split Rich and I up by being horrendously rude to me, and then getting on the phone to him and "crying" and saying *I'd* upset *her*.  However, Rich was used to her by then, and after a couple of initial discussions where I had to prove to him by looking at the emails, what she'd said, he saw what she was doing, and we used to laugh at it together.  There were times though, when I had to practically pretend I didn't exist, in order for him to get photographs and so on of his daughter.  Now I'm faced with the same thing again.

What gets me is that....... there's not point in this.  The He-Ex, AC's Dad, has a girlfriend.  Her name is N.  Do I pretend she doesn't exist?  He's had about 5 since we split up, and AC has met them all. He is slightly confused as to why Daddy keeps changing them, but I've told him that some relationships just come to an end, and people find other people who make them happy.  I've never pretended any of them don't exist.  They are welcome to come with him to the house to pick AC up or bring him back.  I would help AC make birthday cards etc if that's what he wanted to do.  He's taken cake and so on over to the previous gf house.  N has sent eggs from her chickens back with AC.  I have no jealousy issues.  He left me years ago, for reasons of his own.  It's not N's fault.

The She-Ex had Rich thrown out on trumped up charges of domestic abuse.  He then refused to go back if that was how she was going to be - after all, as he said, who knew what she would claim next?  Some women just aren't cut out to be military wives.  That's ok. None of that was my fault.

T-boy's mother left J because she was having an affair.  Some women aren't cut out to be military wives.  I thought I wasn't, but I was strong enough after all.  However, her affair ended, and now she's moved.  We didn't even know each other when they split up.  None of this is my fault.

So why make it complicated?  Why make it such an issue?  I wanted to say "I'm a teacher. This is my job.  I do this all day. I can help your child catch up.  Do you know how much a weeks private tutition could cost you?  £35 an hour? IF the AC was in this position I would jump at the chance!"

Why do people let their personal feelings get in the way of the best thing for their child?  Children come first.  All the time.  End of.

It is the sheer instransigence of these women that amazes and horrifies me.  I bet if the house was on fire and she was outside with a broken back she wouldn't let me go in and get the child.  Either of them! 

In other news, I have a thousand tonnes of work to do, I have the little toilet to clear, and we might have found a tree surgeon.  Although I still can't spell surgeon first time.  I keep putting a u before the n. 

Next weeks lessons are ready to be planned.  Oh joy lol!
I still have 5 log activities to be done before last Friday. Yes. LAST Friday.
Washing needs catching up on.