Sunday, April 26, 2009

Nobody Does It Better.

You may need a bucket Dear Reader. It's been that good a day!

Carly Simon (amongst others!) YouTube It was the theme for the Spy Who Loved Me (James Bond)

This song will now have commentary in black, lyrics in red. Yes, it's that important to me.

Nobody does it better
Makes me feel sad for the rest
Nobody does it half as good as you
Baby, you're the best

This is true. Noone has made me feel the way R does. He does do *it* better than anyone I have ever known. He cares about it. He wants me to enjoy it. *happy sigh*

I wasn't looking but somehow you found me
It tried to hide from your love light
But like Heaven above me
The spy who loved me
Is keeping all my secrets safe tonight

I wasn't looking. My marriage was on the rocks when we met, and then I was completely not looking when we did get together. I tried to hide the way I felt, he tried to hide the way he felt. 3 years later, here we are.

And nobody does it better
Though sometimes I wish someone could
Nobody does it quite the way you do
Why'd you have to be so good?

LOL. He's addictive. He makes me amazed at the things he can do, and the things he does do, and the things he talks about and wants to talk about and the way he is. He is so amazing. He is mentally, physically, my equal. LOL.

The way that you hold me
Whenever you hold me
There's some kind of magic inside you
That keeps me from running
But just keep it coming
How'd you learn to do the things you do?

The way he holds me just fills me, just completes me. Everything is right when I am in his arms and the rest of the world can just take off. And the real joy? It's the same for him. When I hold him, he doesn't have to be my protector all the time - he knows I can be his lioness, as well as his tabby cat. It is magic. I wanted to go, I wanted us not to be together, because I knew it would be complicated, that She-Ex would be unhappy, that there were years of pain as well as joy ahead. But how'd he manage to keep me? Magic I guess....

And nobody does it better
Makes me feel sad for the rest
Nobody does it half as good as you
Baby, baby, darlin', you're the best

Baby, you're the best
Darlin', you're the best
Baby, you're the best
Baby, you're the best
Baby, you're the best
Baby, you're the best

Speaks for itself. He is simply, my best.

And the lovely weekend continues.

The lovely weekend did indeed continue, right to the weather!

I got up, got some work done, AC got up, we snuggled, we watched peculiar tv, we ate, we did stuff. I cleaned the bathroom, changed the cats box, did the dishwasher.

We went outside to go to church, and found a bakers dozen of eggs on the wheelie bin from the lovely people next door.

We went to church, which was good, although he was wriggly today.

He knew we were going out, but I refused to tell him where. He knew that the baby had been born, but also knew we weren't going over there for a while as *I* tend to feel that newborns need space and not too much stimulation, not to mention that the new mother does not need to be charging around making tea!

We drove to the computer shop to see how much R's computer will be to fix. Not for us the joy of the American system which gives you your tax back each year in a nice lump sum *sigh* so it'll have to wait. But we can work together on stuff, so it's cool. It's a partnership lol!

We drove away from the computer shop and out of town and the AC got really excited. He was trying really hard to work it out, and in the end we went to another town locally to watch Dragonball Evolution, which was ace. It has some completely pants reviews, but it is a super film for children and the comic book generation. We had lunch out together before that.

It is impossible, apparently, to get a plain ham sandwich without difficulty these days. I shall blog upon this later, no doubt pontificating as I do! Anyway.

I had popcorn, AC had icecream, and R had Nachos. Nummy! AC sat between us, and it was so cool to be me and watch them chatting before the film, then R touching AC's arm in the scary bits to make sure that he was ok, (AC does the big eyed not moving thing that I do when he's scared. R knows that face! He took care of the situation.)

We walked back to the car, chatting and playing about and having a good time, and when we got into the car, R flicked the radio on, and it was playing Carly Simon's "Nobody does it better" and it was so, so true.

I've got a whole post planned for that in a moment.

But we drove back, and life was so nearly perfect.

We got home, chilled out together, discussed the film, drank tea, looked at the new baby on the webcam, and just enjoyed being together.

Fabulous weekend.

(See - I left the last post completely behind me!)

And the world returns to how we recognise it.

Yep. Serves me right for thinking that she was really being lovely about things these days.

It wasn't a nice email full of what BG has been doing, it was snidey and why haven't you replied to me before ? (Umm - Because he was back on Friday and he's been busy - besides, there's nothing to say, and she hasn't replied to ANYTHING I've sent BG, nor the blogs, nor, well, anything. Moving on.)

So then she phones, after we have been back, and he speaks to BG who is very upset about something, and doesn't really want to talk to Daddy, and then the She-Ex gets back on the phone and it is rant and rave and cry and apparently it's all our fault that BG is struggling at school. REALLY? Hmmm.


Do continue.

And that BG isn't the same as "superperfect" AC. Don't you start on my boy lady.... he has nothing to do with this situation. Yes, he's amazing and wonderful, but you cannot compare the children - they have different upbringings, different cultural expectations, and different lives. Oh yeah and.....


(I know, if her *friend* reads this to her then she's going to moan like fury, but as she wasn't going to be having them do that any more, and it's MY blog, then it will be fine. Unless she lied about reading this, in which case it's her own fault!)

The thing is, this ranting went on for ages. R finished the phonecall, and she phoned back! Just to continue having a go! So there was a real danger of our lovely gorgeous afternoon being ruined, and, whilst large parts of me want to say it was on purpose, most of me doesn't. She wouldn't think like that. And not just because she doesn't think about other people at all, but because I have to believe that she wouldn't choose to put BG through that on purpose. No child needs to hear her mother shouting at her father because she's finding it hard to read. Talk about providing the self-fulfilling prophecy!

However, I felt so sorry for R. He was desparately trying to keep the anger away from the AC. He ended up sat in the bathroom for a while, and then was upstairs when she phoned again so that AC didn't think that R was angry at him. Of course AC picked up the tension in the house, but we both reassured him, and loved him and so on, and he was fine about it all.



Anyway, I'm bored of this rant now, although I will never, ever be bored of the BG. I've got it out of my system, so I'm moving on to hoping she's over it, hoping that she's calmed down about it all too, and that we can work together on some kind of progress for BG. BG is so lovely. Her teacher is really forthcoming and helpful when she can be, but she is so busy (Of course she's busy - she's a teacher!) She-Ex is under so much pressure, that I can see why she loses her rag, but blaming us? Man, I wish it was our problem.


Let's get on to the good part of the day. Because there were some GREAT bits of our day, and I'm leaving all the rubbish here.

Bye bye now rubbish!

Lovely weekend thus far.

We have had a lovely weekend thus far, and it looks set to continue.

Friday night R came home, much to the disappointment of the AC, who wanted him home before he went to school, or at least when school finished so the AC could see him. As it was, AC gets back on Saturday night, blitzes past me with a "Hello Mummy!" and is straight in to see R. (No hugging or anything, just a "Hello R" and a head ruffle from R, and a "Get off!" from the AC and so on. Heaven forbid the small boy of mine shows some affection at the moment lol!)

We had a good phonecall with the BG, although she was busy at the neighbours, which is cool. Her teacher is not as convinced about the glasses as the She-Ex is, but she's still making some progress, which is a good thing. We'll see what the DIBELs say next week.

We had Southern Fried Chicken for tea. Mmmmmmmmmmm!

On Saturday I got up, did some stuff, went back to bed, got up later went to town with R, pottered around, traded in some games, had enough from the trade in to get the game he wanted, which was cool as there was money in the budget for it, which now means that we are able to go a little further afield for todays visit out, and go to a different place to watch the film that the AC wanted to see with R.

On Saturday afternoon I went back to bed, had a 2 hour nap, then got up, R and I tidied through the whole downstairs in about 2 hours (including watching some Formula 1) and then I made raspbery cake - uber nummy - and lemon cupcakes with lemon butter icing. Mmmmmmm! All gone very quickly!

We had people eound in the evening as normal, and it was lovely. However, I appear to be developing a cold, so no seeing the latest addition to the family this week - hopefully we will go and see Lilly next week.

(Ooooh! Early morning email from the She-Ex. It can wait until R gets up, now he's home. I don't read his emails when he's here, just when he's away, and I send our thanks for pictures and leave the rest. He's read everything we've sent to each other this week, and agrees with it, particularly after what BG's teacher said, so it can wait. LOL. BG is as vital a part of our existance as she can be from thousands of miles away, but most days, her mother is not. We cannot allow her to be, or else we'd have gone mad by now! But after the last few emails of niceness, it's probably just letting him know what she's been up to and what the plans are for the phonecalls, although there's no attachment so it's not her glasses or the finished haircut.)

And so to today!







bed for small child

phone call to BG

sewing and gaming for us.

Bed for us.

Lovely, don't you think?